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postapo wastelander
Corrosive Synergy RUST415
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Posted - 2015.10.31 00:57:00 -
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I know this is not propably the best was how to solve problems and i know in my years i should know what to do, but im really puzzled right now and i basicaly trying to find answer to this issue.
It is girl, we have relationship and during my contractor career it is mostly long away style of relationship.
I found some nonsence on her steam account, where one other guy told her Sweetie and love with kissing smileys. When i look more in to (his picture from games) i found they playing together and he basicaly have her for love on every picture with her.
Im puzzled, i do not know. When i confront her, she told me that was just gaming and its nothing. When i push more, she admit there was something because she wasnt sure about us for some time and this was her little run4fun (playing and flirting).
It some time, but time from time its still between us. What do you think boykos?
"Completion by direct action"
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duster 35000
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Posted - 2015.10.31 01:03:00 -
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she's seeing someone, or did one the side just wait til she admits to sleeping with them then kick her out
or some ****
I can't wait to first tanks
We'll bang ok?
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postapo wastelander
Corrosive Synergy RUST415
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Posted - 2015.10.31 01:04:00 -
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duster 35000 wrote:she's seeing someone, or did one the side just wait til she admits to sleeping with them then kick her out
or some ****
It was just texting/playing what i know, everything just net thingie (i did not stalk more).
"Completion by direct action"
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duster 35000
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Posted - 2015.10.31 01:10:00 -
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postapo wastelander wrote:duster 35000 wrote:she's seeing someone, or did one the side just wait til she admits to sleeping with them then kick her out
or some **** It was just texting/playing what i know, everything just net thingie (i did not stalk more). well, just be prepared if she tells you she slept with him if you were in a relationship & she slept with him you need to leave her asap
just my opinion
I can't wait to first tanks
We'll bang ok?
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postapo wastelander
Corrosive Synergy RUST415
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Posted - 2015.10.31 01:15:00 -
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duster 35000 wrote:postapo wastelander wrote:duster 35000 wrote:she's seeing someone, or did one the side just wait til she admits to sleeping with them then kick her out
or some **** It was just texting/playing what i know, everything just net thingie (i did not stalk more). well, just be prepared if she tells you she slept with him if you were in a relationship & she slept with him you need to leave her asap just my opinion
It was some time ago, right now it looks fine. But i still have these wierd days when my mind basicaly kicking me if im right or everything around. Especialy with my asperger combo it is not quite delightfull thingie. Paranoid Asperger i mean.
"Completion by direct action"
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KGB Sleep
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Posted - 2015.10.31 01:31:00 -
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I cannot post what I want to say because it is extremely crude advice involving acts generally demeaning to the female gender.
Good luck to you sir, I hope it all works out.
Because beer, that's why.
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postapo wastelander
Corrosive Synergy RUST415
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Posted - 2015.10.31 01:46:00 -
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KGB Sleep wrote:I cannot post what I want to say because it is extremely crude advice involving acts generally demeaning to the female gender.
Good luck to you sir, I hope it all works out.
Gals are same like boyos right now i feel like she just mess around a little and that conversation with me was enought. But it is nice to hear what others think.
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JIMvc2
KILL-EM-QUICK Rise Of Legion.
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Posted - 2015.10.31 01:52:00 -
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The dark side is strong with her. Don't join the path. Once you join it, it will forever change your destiny.
Judge my muscle content then I'll judge you by your Half Marathon time. Never underestimate runners - "Jim"
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postapo wastelander
Corrosive Synergy RUST415
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Posted - 2015.10.31 01:53:00 -
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JIMvc2 wrote:The dark side is strong with her. Don't join the path. Once you join it, it will forever change your destiny.
We will, for now it is fine. But my paranoid draging me to dark side too.
"Completion by direct action"
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Lac Nokomis
Kirkinen Risk Control Caldari State
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Posted - 2015.10.31 01:57:00 -
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Its better to be alone then to be paranoid my friend. |
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postapo wastelander
Corrosive Synergy RUST415
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Posted - 2015.10.31 02:13:00 -
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Lac Nokomis wrote:Its better to be alone then to be paranoid my friend.
The question is if there is reason to be because it can be (or not) fine. What if everything is all my head because she just made one strike and since im paranoid, because my nature is be paranoid. Paranoid aspies are really bad sort tbh.
"Completion by direct action"
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Union118
TH3 STRUGGL3
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Posted - 2015.10.31 02:14:00 -
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postapo wastelander wrote:I know this is not propably the best was how to solve problems and i know in my years i should know what to do, but im really puzzled right now and i basicaly trying to find answer to this issue.
It is girl, we have relationship and during my contractor career it is mostly long away style of relationship.
I found some nonsence on her steam account, where one other guy told her Sweetie and love with kissing smileys. When i look more in to (his picture from games) i found they playing together and he basicaly have her for love on every picture with her.
Im puzzled, i do not know. When i confront her, she told me that was just gaming and its nothing. When i push more, she admit there was something because she wasnt sure about us for some time and this was her little run4fun (playing and flirting).
Its some time ago, but time from time its still between us. What do you think boykos? You are basicaly like my family i mean if i do not count job im mostly here. Red flags are going up. If i was you id cut my losses and move on.
My girl and i have long distance relationship but i know we are solid till death do us part. Its something i know and is hard to explain.
All i can say is if your girl is accepting other guys hitting on her and all the kissy huggy stuff then secretly she is cheating or is going to.
Iv been in enough relationships to know if a girl is committed despite arguements and stuff. If she is having second thoughts then get out. If she really wants you she will fight for her loyalty.
Starter Fit Suits are OP :-)
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Shinobi MumyoSakanagare ZaShigurui
Four Horseman Tactical Agency
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Posted - 2015.10.31 02:33:00 -
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Seems that you finding info that's good and I say that because you could just be left out in the dark about anything that she's doing but you took matters into your own hands and while you know she's going to deny it , the best thing that you can do is move on ... somewhat like it seems that she's doing but she's not being a real woman and being honest about it and trying to talk to you about what caused her to feel the way that she does , that's making her feel the need for another man's attention .
Most women are always looking for something bigger and better , it's just in their nature ... now you have some that know what they want and when they get a good man , their willing to do whatever it takes to keep him and it seems like you really like this girl but I can only tell you that the best thing that you could do IMO is , start to look out for yourself in this matter and maybe start to take measures to plan for life after this girl .
Start to date but make it casual and nothing serious but don't lead on to her about what your doing because it seems that she's playing a role ( in concerns of looking out for her own interests ) and maybe it's time for you to do the same .
My experience has shown me that most long distance relationships just don't work out for the most part and for a woman , they crave attention and if your not around then their app to look elsewhere for it and that's not to say that your not a good guy and that your not taking care of business but they need to always feel wanted and if your not around then she's just going to get that attention that your not giving her from someone else .
That's not your fault because like you say , your working and trying to build a better life for yourself but maybe part of that is just weeding out the distractions that you might encounter because a good woman would respect what your doing and compromise but I just don't see too many people out here like that anymore .
It's just like troops getting deployed and later on finding out that their spouse / chick / woman was servicing other men while you were serving your country .
Do what you gotta do for yourself and if that's just coming out and telling her how you feel and what you believe is going on or just distancing yourself and dating different women while your with her but whatever you do , don't let yourself get fooled .
Trust yourself , you know what you should really do ... it's up to you to not be afraid to do that , whatever it is .
It's not going to work if you don't have trust ( if she's giving you a reason or reasons not to trust her ) , that's JMO .
Teamwork is really important - said the Tyrannosarus Rex from Kung Fury .
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postapo wastelander
Corrosive Synergy RUST415
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Posted - 2015.10.31 02:33:00 -
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Union118 wrote:postapo wastelander wrote:I know this is not propably the best was how to solve problems and i know in my years i should know what to do, but im really puzzled right now and i basicaly trying to find answer to this issue.
It is girl, we have relationship and during my contractor career it is mostly long away style of relationship.
I found some nonsence on her steam account, where one other guy told her Sweetie and love with kissing smileys. When i look more in to (his picture from games) i found they playing together and he basicaly have her for love on every picture with her.
Im puzzled, i do not know. When i confront her, she told me that was just gaming and its nothing. When i push more, she admit there was something because she wasnt sure about us for some time and this was her little run4fun (playing and flirting).
Its some time ago, but time from time its still between us. What do you think boykos? You are basicaly like my family i mean if i do not count job im mostly here. Red flags are going up. If i was you id cut my losses and move on. My girl and i have long distance relationship but i know we are solid till death do us part. Its something i know and is hard to explain. All i can say is if your girl is accepting other guys hitting on her and all the kissy huggy stuff then secretly she is cheating or is going to. Iv been in enough relationships to know if a girl is committed despite arguements and stuff. If she is having second thoughts then get out. If she really wants you she will fight for her loyalty.
I do not know if smileys are like real thing, thats that issue. I mean i do not know if red flag for flirt on steam is same like flirt in real life.
"Completion by direct action"
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postapo wastelander
Corrosive Synergy RUST415
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Posted - 2015.10.31 03:06:00 -
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Shinobi MumyoSakanagare ZaShigurui wrote:Seems that you finding info that's good and I say that because you could just be left out in the dark about anything that she's doing but you took matters into your own hands and while you know she's going to deny it , the best thing that you can do is move on ... somewhat like it seems that she's doing but she's not being a real woman and being honest about it and trying to talk to you about what caused her to feel the way that she does , that's making her feel the need for another man's attention .
Most women are always looking for something bigger and better , it's just in their nature ... now you have some that know what they want and when they get a good man , their willing to do whatever it takes to keep him and it seems like you really like this girl but I can only tell you that the best thing that you could do IMO is , start to look out for yourself in this matter and maybe start to take measures to plan for life after this girl .
Start to date but make it casual and nothing serious but don't lead on to her about what your doing because it seems that she's playing a role ( in concerns of looking out for her own interests ) and maybe it's time for you to do the same .
My experience has shown me that most long distance relationships just don't work out for the most part and for a woman , they crave attention and if your not around then their app to look elsewhere for it and that's not to say that your not a good guy and that your not taking care of business but they need to always feel wanted and if your not around then she's just going to get that attention that your not giving her from someone else .
That's not your fault because like you say , your working and trying to build a better life for yourself but maybe part of that is just weeding out the distractions that you might encounter because a good woman would respect what your doing and compromise but I just don't see too many people out here like that anymore .
It's just like troops getting deployed and later on finding out that their spouse / chick / woman was servicing other men while you were serving your country .
Do what you gotta do for yourself and if that's just coming out and telling her how you feel and what you believe is going on or just distancing yourself and dating different women while your with her but whatever you do , don't let yourself get fooled .
Trust yourself , you know what you should really do ... it's up to you to not be afraid to do that , whatever it is .
It's not going to work if you don't have trust ( if she's giving you a reason or reasons not to trust her ) , that's JMO .
Yup that is thingie. Sadly enough i think it is good right now but that shadow from past is still here. I actually do not know if her temporary problem do not bacame my issue.
I just saw two messages on steam with six pictures how she playing dayZ with other guy (on them he called her "his love"). I think i should have some coversation, the final one and tell her what i and what she wants.
I do not want make something (what can be momentary) important. Everyone make mistakes but i thank you all for help.
We will see what she can tell me and most importantly, what she can do for our relationship for fututre.
Now im really sorry i will go play some games and make myself drunk underDAdog ;)
"Completion by direct action"
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duster 35000
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Posted - 2015.10.31 03:11:00 -
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ITT: /r9k/ tier "women are x" responses
I can't wait to first tanks
We'll bang ok?
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postapo wastelander
Corrosive Synergy RUST415
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Posted - 2015.10.31 03:13:00 -
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duster 35000 wrote:ITT: /r9k/ tier "women are x" responses
Tomorrow there will be one really angry PMC XD (angry and with headache)
How my grandfather told once:"Girls are girls, if you have problem drink first night and solving of problem leave till next day."
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byte modal
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Posted - 2015.10.31 04:25:00 -
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how long ago was it, and what is going on today to cause you doubt? 2 years ago is different than 2 days ago. online, long distance, face to face---emotion and intent are still real. at the end of the day you either forgive or don't. if you forgive, then put it down and be happy. if not, then move on cuz you won't be able to trust.
all the best, and good luck.
btw: probable not the best source of emotional advice, a gaming forum. just sayin'.
off topic: what's up with boyos and boykos?
kitten bacon taco (nom)
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Ablerober
Haircuts that kill
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Posted - 2015.10.31 10:15:00 -
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byte modal wrote:how long ago was it, and what is going on today to cause you doubt? 2 years ago is different than 2 days ago. online, long distance, face to face---emotion and intent are still real. at the end of the day you either forgive or don't. if you forgive, then put it down and be happy. if not, then move on cuz you won't be able to trust.
all the best, and good luck.
btw: probable not the best source of emotional advice, a gaming forum. just sayin'.
off topic: what's up with boyos and boykos?
I think Boyos is a Welsh term meaning mates or buddy.
Anyhow, I had a long distance relationship for about 5 years, before heading to South Korea where we got married.
Now she lives with me in the UK - this wouldn't have happened without a huge amount of trust and brutal honesty, otherwise there was no point.
Don't get paranoid, just be happy and enjoy yourself. If shes flirting, then you should do the same, lifes to short. |
shaman oga
Dead Man's Game
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Posted - 2015.10.31 10:52:00 -
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Just rekt him on the internet games.
New millenium act of strenght
Regressed to blueberry level.
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Shamarskii Simon
The Hundred Acre Hood
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Posted - 2015.10.31 11:21:00 -
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Kk, i didn't read the thread other than the first 3 posts because it just reminded me of all the signs my ex showed, and i didn't acknowledge them. I don't want you to make the same mistakes
I know this sounds bad, but you're gonna need to have some doubt in your mind.. (if the guy lives near you)
If he doesn't, just meh n blow it over...
Is she flirting w/ him? Yes? Hmm...... Kill it w/ fire if it's a committed relationship (kill the flirting). If not, you don't need to worry.
Alright, the only reason why I say this is because something like this happened to me before... Around 3 years ago.
It was my ex, she was "friends" with this guy... I didn't really say anything until one day she gave me her phone to play some game called dots. He texted her at that moment saying "hey babe, what's up. You out yet? " [it was exam day in summer]
I didn't flip... I just stayed shh and made her reply.
Then i asked, "who is it?" she said the guys name... Realized it was the same guy who's been flirting with her the entire time... Talking about how she'd look naked n **** of the ilk.
So... I said "let me talk to him" took her phone. Now I was playing a game I didn't think I'd be playing; I just kept scrolling up. Saw that they've been flirting w/ each other and making plans, etc.
that stopped. Temporarily. I stayed away from it once we ended up getting into an argument over it. I was blinded by love, and said "okay.. I believe you. I trust you... It won't happen"
Fast forward a year and a bit... Came up again... But this time it was worse... but that story has nothing to do with it. Just know she's cheated on me twice (but rumored 3 times) and now she's with that "friend" of hers.... Made him cheat on his girlfriend (whom she was friends with also)
At the same time, it might not be anything too serious, so don't kill her with fire. Just let her know you don't like it and it makes you uncomfortable. If she gets mad at that, she's not really a good SO imho.
TL;DR Have a little doubt in your mind, because if something happens... You were ready. These "friends" are not always what they seem. If she encourages it, then you most likely will be hurt in the future; your relationship is on borrowed time. It might not even be something like that though, so just tell her how you feel and see how that goes.
But what ever you do -- Be 90/10. 90% love, 10% doubt.
But without trust, the relationship is on ice... that's why I say "a liiiittle doubt" cause if you confront and you're wrong... You're more fuk'd than a calass being fluxed in CQC. Gotta acquire intel before doing anything. That's why you need a little doubt... To take out the little bias you can have for being blinded.
Forever ADS. Best role.
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Count- -Crotchula
TasteTheTamsen
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Posted - 2015.10.31 12:46:00 -
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if this is a girl you haven't met then they're a hustler and you're guy number 32492384932
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