Shamarskii Simon
The Hundred Acre Hood
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Posted - 2015.10.31 11:21:00 -
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Kk, i didn't read the thread other than the first 3 posts because it just reminded me of all the signs my ex showed, and i didn't acknowledge them. I don't want you to make the same mistakes
I know this sounds bad, but you're gonna need to have some doubt in your mind.. (if the guy lives near you)
If he doesn't, just meh n blow it over...
Is she flirting w/ him? Yes? Hmm...... Kill it w/ fire if it's a committed relationship (kill the flirting). If not, you don't need to worry.
Alright, the only reason why I say this is because something like this happened to me before... Around 3 years ago.
It was my ex, she was "friends" with this guy... I didn't really say anything until one day she gave me her phone to play some game called dots. He texted her at that moment saying "hey babe, what's up. You out yet? " [it was exam day in summer]
I didn't flip... I just stayed shh and made her reply.
Then i asked, "who is it?" she said the guys name... Realized it was the same guy who's been flirting with her the entire time... Talking about how she'd look naked n **** of the ilk.
So... I said "let me talk to him" took her phone. Now I was playing a game I didn't think I'd be playing; I just kept scrolling up. Saw that they've been flirting w/ each other and making plans, etc.
that stopped. Temporarily. I stayed away from it once we ended up getting into an argument over it. I was blinded by love, and said "okay.. I believe you. I trust you... It won't happen"
Fast forward a year and a bit... Came up again... But this time it was worse... but that story has nothing to do with it. Just know she's cheated on me twice (but rumored 3 times) and now she's with that "friend" of hers.... Made him cheat on his girlfriend (whom she was friends with also)
At the same time, it might not be anything too serious, so don't kill her with fire. Just let her know you don't like it and it makes you uncomfortable. If she gets mad at that, she's not really a good SO imho.
TL;DR
Have a little doubt in your mind, because if something happens... You were ready. These "friends" are not always what they seem. If she encourages it, then you most likely will be hurt in the future; your relationship is on borrowed time. It might not even be something like that though, so just tell her how you feel and see how that goes.
But what ever you do -- Be 90/10. 90% love, 10% doubt.
But without trust, the relationship is on ice... that's why I say "a liiiittle doubt" cause if you confront and you're wrong... You're more fuk'd than a calass being fluxed in CQC. Gotta acquire intel before doing anything. That's why you need a little doubt... To take out the little bias you can have for being blinded.
Forever ADS. Best role.
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