Maturity has something to do with it. Yelling at someone is not a sign of a healthy relationship in my book. It shows lack of control and disrespect for the person being yield at. I don't enjoy being screamed at and I will not do it to other people. The battle is mayhem enough, you don't need to add to it. A cool head and a calm voice will give confidence and assurance to your team mates during stressful times.

How can you not scream or get mad or get upset when things are not going your way?

Um! No one can stay that cool! Even Mr Spock couldnt stay that cool! Saying that someone keeps a cool head and never gets mad is absolute fabrication. Control is all about power and generally doesnt go with respect/disrespect. Control is associated with fear! If one says they are in control, its generally because of fear! If there is respect, there is no need for control.

With that said all gamers are just human! And humans are imperfect! And during moments of imperfection people do scream! Saying that one never yells or screams during a game is an absolute fabrication. How can you not scream or get mad or get upset when things are not going your way?

Yes people can stay that cool.

All it takes is a bit of perspective, generally gained with age.

You realiize that this is a game you play for enjoyment, and that allowing yourself to get upset to the point of taking it out on someone is counter productive to the mission. If it upsets you that much perhaps you should find some less frustrating way of spending your play time.

It's only a game. You can use poor performance to motivate yourself, but that is constructive rather than destructive.

Now if you need to talk about things that went wrong it is best to save that for after the battle and work it out then.

There are two ways of managing people, with a stick or with a carrot. Your life lessons will guide your choice.

So you mean to say if someone on your squad is not playing nice, will you tell him nicely that he messed up or would you yell at him about it? And whats more, is he going to listen better when you tell him nicely or when you yell at him or speak to him in a stern tone.

Lets face it;- most people take things for granted when they are told things nicely. Its the same thing a quarterback missing a throw. You wont find the coach sitting him on his lap, playing with hair and telling the quarterback he messed up. He would pull the quarterback with his helmet and yell and spit in his face, telling him how he flucked up.

Being nice will not help your team or squad improve. You are setting yourself up for mediocrity. Being passionate about something not only gets your squad to improve but also makes you improve too.

As far as gaming is concerned there are a lot of us who take gaming seriously but have fun with it too. And as far as how serious the gaming industry is;- its a multi billion dollar industry. Most companies have clans and squads within themselves and encourage it as a team building exercise.

As far as perspective is concerned it does not come with age. It comes with hoe much time you spend with how much people. Only experience comes with age.

In the end, we can all agree to disagree. It makes life more interesting!

Wait: Being stoned helps but thats not what I am talking about here!

Maturity has something to do with it. Yelling at someone is not a sign of a healthy relationship in my book. It shows lack of control and disrespect for the person being yield at. I don't enjoy being screamed at and I will not do it to other people. The battle is mayhem enough, you don't need to add to it. A cool head and a calm voice will give confidence and assurance to your team mates during stressful times.

Wait: Being stoned helps but thats not what I am talking about here!